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Have you ever slowed down long
enough to ask yourself the question,
What do I really want for
my complete life?

Take this quick 5-minute quiz to determine where in each of the five key facets, that make up your Life's Gem, you are currently making unconscious decisions and/or trade-offs.

Find out where you are currently across the settling spectrum of life and choose where you wish to be given the quality of life you're after. Be honest.

NOTE these are situational and relative and change over the course of one’s life. Don’t worry about a low score on a facet, it may simply be less of a current or aspirational priority for YOU! Take the Quiz, join the movement.


Stop Settling® is the indicator of a person’s values and purpose and is predictive of the Quality of Life they desire.

Here’s the thing: You are complete. When at work. When at home. When in your community. You are the same person in every facet of your life. Although there are many sides to life, each varying and changing, you as a person must go through them all as a whole.


But before we go any further, throw away the notion that settling is always negative. That’s not necessarily the case. Settling unconsciously and habitually is a bad thing. It means you are making trade-offs with your time that you may or may not make otherwise. But when you choose to settle in and settle down consciously, it can be the most sanity-saving, joy-inducing, productivity-generating habit you have.


Thus, it is crucial and imperative that you become self-aware of unconscious habits and break the cycle of involuntarily settling. To piece-meal yourself and your time to fit the many facets of life is disrespectful of your full potential, your happiness, and your health.


Career is your work life. Your daily 9-5 (and greater for many of us), office-sitting, back-to-back meetings life. This category includes your job, perhaps even your own start-up company, and any aspirations you may have within this realm.


Parents, kids, grandparents, in-laws, etc. Anyone in your life who is or whom you consider close family. This doesn’t really include your second cousin twice removed that lives in an obscure town in Canada that you talk to during the 5-year family reunion. This is for the family with whom you interact with regularly enough that they have a significant impact on your time.


The people in your life with whom you choose to grab coffee or dinner. The ones you call when the two aforementioned facets are driving you up the wall. You know, friends. (for some of us, blood is not thicker than water and perhaps, some of your closest friends you consider family, YOU define this, no one else gets to)


This may be your church, book club, where you volunteer, the local farmers market to which you contribute. Anything where you interact with your community at large.


Well-being is your health. And while it includes your physical health, it is not limited to that. This is where the things you do to keep your sanity and avoid burn-out belongs. This category is about physical activities like running and yoga, but also activities like hobbies, meditation, and passion projects.


The Stop Settling Quiz is here to wake people up and have them making conscious decisions about where they choose to spend their time. Isn’t it time you got off the wheel?