Updated: Dec 8, 2020
Friends are the people we choose to be our support and comfort. The people we know we can rely on, no matter what comes our way.
Shifting away from work to be with our circle of friends can be a difficult shift to make, but it is not impossible!
Here's how to do it.
Tell people what you’re doing! Communicate your goals to everyone you trust that will be affected by them, your family, your team, your boss, etc. Work with them to put an actionable plan together that can help you achieve your goals. Not only will this let people know what you are trying to accomplish, but they can help hold you accountable when you waver.
When working towards your new goal, make sure you know your boundaries to avoid being pulled back into old habits. Perhaps, before you were willing to work overtime but now that time will be used to be with friends. So, working an 8 hour day and/or 40-hour work-week is your boundary. Don’t cross it or allow it to be crossed. Set whatever boundaries make sense for you and stick to them!
168 Hours - Prioritize Your Time
When you’re looking at how to shift things around to realize your goals, remember you have 168 hours in a week. Where are you spending them? Take inventory, and I mean literally write down, where you are spending your time. How much do you sleep, eat, work, spend time with family, workout, etc? Once you have how you currently are spending your time, take a look at what you can shift or cut down on to make more time with your friends.
As you're planning your goals and figuring out where to shift to make time for your friends, remember that doing all this doesn’t mean that you can keep or increase your responsibilities at home or in your career. Make sure that you are splitting up your responsibilities at work and at home. Perhaps you wash up after meals and your partner cooks. At work, if you know a specific task is not your forte, see if a colleague who enjoys this type of work would like to take it on. The idea is to use your support network to help take the load off where it is too heavy or isn’t wanted so you can focus where you would like to be.
Lead, Don't Tell
Actions speak louder than words, especially as a leader. It is not enough for you to tell people what to do, you have to show them that it can be done and that you hold yourself to the same standards.
Great leaders do more than just dictate or delegate. They inspire others to become leaders in their own rights. They do this by first, not solving every problem for their team. Instead, they work with the individual or team to help them find the answer or solution to the problem.
Second, great leaders do not make themselves on the restrictions they put on their teams. If you as a leader leave early every Friday to meet up with or talk to your friends but do not make the same allowance for your team, no matter what you say to them, they will not look to you as a leader.
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